"When I met Bob I was at the end and had truly given up on life. The road to healing has been long and painful but the one thing that kept me going is that Bob has always made me feel valued. He is willing to be real and share his struggles and weaknesses which fostered faith and trust in him. He has traveled some of the same roads and is able to show true compassion and empathy toward me. His faith is unwavering and Christ shines through him as he speaks, guides, and just listens. I am so grateful that he has been willing to travel the road of healing with me. I am a better person having taken this journey."

-Anonymous

“… I faced the reality of what my life had become and I didn't like what I saw, but this time instead of berating myself, indulging in self pity or vowing to “try harder,” I made a phone call. I called a therapist. Little did I realize at the time what a life changing call this would prove to be. I had no idea how to choose a therapist; I only knew that it was important to me that he or she shares my Christian beliefs. I needed to see the love of Christ modeled through a human connection. Bob was that model for me.

I had no idea what to expect from the therapy process and was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't nearly as awful as I had imagined. I'm not saying that it was easy, change rarely is, but the results have been more than worth my investment.

I had always seen that my very existence was an inconvenience or bother. I was ashamed to take up space or time and apologized for breathing. Bob let me know that I was not an imposition on him or God. He pushed me when that was what I needed and was equally understanding when I was unwilling or unable to confront an issue.

Therapy helped me to see myself as valuable when I had seen myself as worthless. I worked hard and when it got tough I learned to stay instead of run. I learned that my past did not determine my future and that I owed it to myself and to those that I love to be the best me that I could be. Therapy has been the tool that I used to rebuild my life. Each session became a brick to construct the life that I desired, the life that I deserved to live. Success built upon success, and a setback didn't mean failure, only a chance to retool, reframe, learn and move on. I no longer blamed myself for all of life's misfortunes, and no longer expected that there would be a day that I would not face challenges this side of heaven…”

-Anonymous

(A letter from the Every Man's Battle conference - reprinted with permission)

"Dave and Bob,

I just wanted to send a note of thanks to both of you. While this marks the 1 week point from the beginning of the conference, it is also a milestone of sorts for me personally.

While I was in preparatory recovery weeks before the conference began, the time spent with the two of you and my "band of brothers" has solidified many things in my heart and mind. The most significant part of the 3 day's was the freedom to share with strangers the deepest hurts, wounds and resulting sin, combined with the hope that remains.....in Christ, of course. The restoration of my marriage is now in full swing.

The biggest change however is inward. What is happening to me inwardly is unprecedented. Although some claim that going through the "fire" is painful, the process God is using in stripping me clean of decades of humiliation, powerlessness, insignificance and feelings of incompetence, has been more liberating than painful. It is as though a thousand pound ball and chain has been removed from my neck. I know this will be a lifelong process but am grateful that He has begun a rapid restoration in both my heart and my relationships. And while it may seem natural to have grand expectations, I have none. I am simply enjoying being clean for possibly the first time in my life.

I am grateful for the work you men do. I don't know what the future holds for me, but I know I will sound the trumpet on sexual purity whenever the opportunity presents itself. I hope I can do it as gracefully and honestly as you do it. As you know, my struggle is daily and sometimes hourly, but He is helping me win the battle, one skirmish at a time.

God bless you both richly!"

-Anonymous